Parenting witih a Purpose: Avoid Inertia

by Jennifer Dryden

Recently I have been convicted about the amount of time and energy I spend focusing on my children completing school work, cleaning up their rooms, and practicing for extracurricular activities. I seem to be quite happy when I can check these things off the list each day. While these things are not negative and do need time and attention, in the end I want to be more concerned with their inner character and integrity than with their signed papers, a clean room or mastering a specific talent.

As I have pondered this, I keep thinking about what Dr. Harper said during the recent parenting seminar. He said that inertia is one of the biggest forces that we confront as we parent. Inertia is defined as a tendency to do nothing or to remain unchanged. Sometimes, I focus so much on my “to do” list that the things I need to be doing don’t get done. I wonder if you ever feel this way. Here are some things I am working on that may be helpful for you to consider as you parent as well.

  1. Parent with a goal in mind. I want my kids to glorify the Lord in all that they do. My time and energy should reflect this goal.
  2. Look to God’s principles on how to parent. I must study the scriptures to help train my children and to allow God to shape me as their parent with His Word. Experts in psychology often change their opinions about the best way to raise kids. However, God’s Word is unchanging.
  3. Every now and then do a self check. I need to examine my parenting to see if maybe I need to realign my time and efforts so that my actions will help me to reach my goals.

Proverbs says, “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” We have to be people of action. I don’t want inertia or my inactivity to be the guiding force in my parenting. A person would never go into battle without a plan, so why should we? I am praying for you all as we raise the next generation for service in His kingdom.